keep waiting or start moving?
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
i've been asking a lot of my friends, both male and female, the following question to surprisingly very mixed reviews:
is it ok for the woman to ask the man out?
we're talking sadie hawkins style here.
while some say, "heck yes! go for it!".
others say, "hell no! if he wants to spend time with you he'll ask you".
but what if he doesn't think you're interested in him cause you are too busy trying to be a bad mama jamma?
my mother taught me that your significant other should treat you like a queen, and in the beginning specifically he should be the one chasing after you - call me old fashioned.
that school of thought has generally always caused me to play the aloof "oh the cute boy i'm secretly in love with is sitting at the bar? yes, i did notice, and no i'm not going to talk to him" card when i like a guy, never coming on too strong, or even coming on at all (twss) - which based upon my current relationship status isn't exactly working for me now is it?
so i'm a tad bit guarded, sue me.
perhaps i need to turn off the aloof and turn on the flirt - new years resolution maybe?
i've actually been told on more than one occasion that i can be intimidating to men - which i find to be complete BS, almost laughable, as i think i'm completely approachable and easy to talk to.
but now i'm drifting completely from the point of the post...
i need advice.
is it ok for the woman to ask a man out? i'm looking for the male AND female point of view here.