hot awesome dudes need love too

Monday, December 28, 2009

hey kids, i'll be back with more later but the post below is way more important than pictures of me and my friends being idiots.

if you feel inclined to do so (which i hope you do) take a moment and say a prayer, think some positive thoughts, or do whatever you do for brandy's "hot awesome dude".

My name is brandy. And I have a blog.

And a plea.

I use my blog to showcase the crazy I meet everyday, share the stories of the kids I teach and document my love for tequila, dairy products and the abdominal muscles of Ryan Reynolds. Rarely do I talk about personal issues on my blog- as personal as the dude that I adore (who I actually met through my blog- single ladies, let that be a very good reason to blog, the possibility of meeting someone as wonderful as my man), but I need your help. And it involves my dude.

He's a guy who made math comics for my class, so they would love learning about addition. He's the kinda guy who sends my friends gift cards when they are having hard times, who remembers every story I ever told him, who was the first person I celebrated with when I got a teaching job. He's the guy who sent flowers to me at school- dozens of my favourite pink roses just because he loves me. He's a guy who has spent a year patiently explaining (and re-explaining) everything there is to know about football during the important games when silence is preferred. He's made me word puzzles and comics and stayed up late playing Scrabble with me (even though I beat him almost every time). He's listened to me cry about school and family and jobs. He is everything I never knew I needed and everything I always knew I wanted.

The holidays have hit us hard. He's recently been told he may have something called multiple myeloma- an incurable cancer, that gives a person an average of five years of continued life. Though this news has came as a shock, he continues to be exactly who has always been- spending his time worrying about me, rather than worrying about himself. He's the most selfless individual I know- (he stayed late on Christmas Eve to work, so his co-workers could leave early) and a post like this would never be something that he would promote or encourage but when I'm overwhelmed and feeling helpless, the blogging community has always given me tremendous support and comfort, two things I desperately need at this time.

As I write this, the future is uncertain and we aren't sure what's happening. He'll need to see an oncologist soon, to verify what's going on in his body. My hope is that everyone who reads this think positive thoughts and if you are a person who prays, could you add him to your list? (You can refer to him as 'brandy's hot awesome dude'). If you don't pray, please keep him in your heart.This cancer is only a possibility and I believe that the prayers and positive thoughts of people can make sure it never becomes a reality.

I want to give a big thank you to the blog owner who scraped their original blog plans and graciously put this up. My goal is to get as many people as possible to see and read this post. If you are reading this and want to help, copy and paste my plea into your blog or send a link through twitter, so more people can keep him in their thoughts. I would be so very grateful (even more grateful than I am to my friend who first showed me the picture of Ryan Reynolds on the cover of Entertainment Weekly. If you haven't seen it, google it. You. Are. Welcome).

I realize this all sounds dramatic, a Lifetime movie in the making- but this is life. Right now. And I'm throwing away any hint of ego and am humbly asking for you to pray or think kind thoughts. If you are able to pass this on, thank you and if you know anything regarding MM- please email me (my email is on my blog). This isn't a call for sympathy or a plea for pity. It's just one girl hoping you can think positive thoughts for the person she adores. If my current heartache provides you with anything, let it be with the reminder that life is short, love is unbending and no one knows what could happen next. Maybe it is silly, but I really do believe that positive thoughts can make a huge difference. Thank you for reading this and if you haven't already? Please tell someone you love them today.

I did.


  1. It's pretty damn amazing how quickly Brandy can spread the word and bloggers can unite in support of her and her manfriend. Here's hoping this effort is felt all the way up in Canada ... they deserve the love and some good news.

  2. thinking some very very good thoughts for her hot awesome man friend over here. off to twitter the link as well. GOOD THOUGHTS GOOD THOUGHTS GOOD THOUGHTS!

  3. Of course, he'll be kept in my thoughts. Linking in my blog now.

  4. I'm sending my good thoughts and prayers their way.

  5. I have a very good friend whose daughter has an incurable brain tumor. She has lived much longer than the alloted time given, and we are everyday thankful for each day she opens her eyes.

    Since learning of her cancer, I have been a big believer in the power of sharing knowledge and positive energy. Not very many people know about the devestation of cancer. We hear about it, but until it hits us close to our hearts, we look blindly away.

    I am most definately going to repost your blog. Your hot awesome dude is totally in my thoughts and I am pulling for good results from his testing.

  6. Wow I hate hearing about this happening to a good person. Nice of you to help.

  7. Good vibes being sent out from my house!!! Good luck Brandy and your hot man-friend!!!

  8. Brandy,

    I'm a reader of your blog as well & I will be sending good thoughts to you & your man. One can never have enough good thought floating their way. If you could send some on over to Pittsburgh as well, that would be great. My dad went into the hospital over Christmas with Cellulitis in his eye & has had to have two surgeries. He's doing okay, but is in ICU, sedated and breathing out of a trache tube. They also had to remove part of his lower eyelid. It's been rough & we could use all the goodness we can get.

    I too believe in the power of positive thinking and good thoughts and prayers and whatever good vibes people put out there.

    Thanks to anyone who can add him to their list "Shan's Pittsburgh Dad" will do just fine. I'll be sending them to all of you.

  9. shannon, sending good thoughts for your dad your way too!

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