a girl and her blog

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

i've been thinking about writing this post for a very, very long time....

girl starts blog.

girl's blog eventually starts getting readers, many in fact.

girl continues to blog.

girl gets first pitch from a company to write about something on her now traffic worthy blog.

girl gets excited!

girl writes about things that she thinks are fun and that her readers would enjoy.

the girl also gets some really cool stuff, and gets to go to some really cool events for doing so.

the girl with the blog is happy.

that is until the girl is suddenly spending more time writing and promoting events and products for other people instead of having fun writing for herself...

...which was why the girl started the blog in the first place.

blogging suddenly becomes a chore.

the girl can't manage all the pitches filling up her email inbox and starts to feel guilty when she can't make an event or doesn't feel like writing about something.

the girl just wants to write for herself but the last thing she wants to do is not promote her city, her passions, and her friends.

the girl doesn't want to seem ungrateful...

... but there just aren't enough hours in the day.

"eff this!", the girl says, "this is my blog and i'm taking it back."

the girl starts deleting/turning down pitches.

the girl is going to start writing for herself again.

the girl is happy.

... for now.

this blog is a relationship after all, the longest relationship the girl's ever had, and it just so happens to be evolving.

you'll have that.


p.s. this doesn't mean that i'm never going to accept a pitch or talk about events/organizations that i enjoy, it just means that i'm going to be a bit more selective. all while NOT feeling guilty if i don't write about something - which is what i'm struggling with the most.


  1. This would be an awesome post if it were more about me and less about you you you.

    If you could fix that I'd appreciate it. Thanks in advance.

  2. Well done for taking control! Would you have thought when you started this blog that one day you might need an assistant to field your emails for you!? :)

  3. Young lady, do NOT scare me like that! I read the first sentence and then FREAKED that you were going to say Plum would be no longer!

    Now that I've got that off my chest - GOOD JOB FOR YOU for remembering why you started blogging in the first place! :)

  4. Good for you Alexa for taking back your blog! I adore you and always look forward to coming over here to read, and will continue to do so. I think we all go through cycles with our blogs and the relationships we have with them do change and evolve. Good for you for writing and being happy!

  5. This post should be titled "The Giving Tree"....it reminded me very much of one of my favorite books

  6. If it is a chore, whats the point. Brava.

  7. I think a lot of people will relate to this blog, Alexa. Maybe not to the level of celebrity of your blog. But, we all had our reasons for starting. And then opportunities were introduced. And we become sucked into that world of possibility. At some point, many of us re-evaluate why we got into blogging in the first place. I went back to the basics last year when I got rid of ads on my blog. And I've never done paid reviews. And only once done an event sponsored by a manufacturer. I applaud where you've landed today. I hope you'll enjoy blogging again!

  8. Good for you! For the amount of time you put into it, it should definitely be something you enjoy and *want* to do. Not something you have to.

  9. I hate it when things become a chore. Whenever that happens, I have no motivation to do it anymore. Good for you for realizing that you can still make a change. *high five*

  10. moooooooooooog - you shut your mouth when you're talking to me.

    jen - i NEVER thought that, EVER. ha

    bite buff - can we cheers with champagne?

    allijag - ha, don't you worry missy i'm not shutting this baby down for a long long time. you're stuck with me.

    mandy - i heart you for being you, that is all.

    laura - that's what i was thinking about when i was writing it - of course.

    lexa - precisely.

    amy - why thank you.

    OHmommy - of all people i know you know just how i feel.

    nilsa - celebrity. pssh. but you really hit the nail on the head in regard to being sucked into the world of possibilities.

    liebchen - exactly!

    wonderful - high five back atcha.

  11. yea! what she said! it shouldnt be work. work is work enough, right?

  12. Good for you, girl! Blogging should be fun :)

  13. Good for you, girlie! Cheers to that :-)

  14. I like getting free stuff though.

  15. fizzgig - yes, i concur.

    hellotaylor - thankfully, i think it's still going to be.

    allison - you heard it here first... via gchat yesterday of course :)

    ashley - thanks lady

    muffin - haha, i know you do! i do as well, but how about this. you can take part in all the free stuff and then YOU can write about it hungover on a sunday! deal? xoxo

  16. Agreed, it shouldn't be a chore. Good for you, do what YOU wanna do !

    Plus, I'd rather read about you than about sponsors .. :D

  17. Alexa, I'm actually a first-time visitor to your blog. I saw a comment you made on Elle Michelle's and decided to click-through.

    I live in Cleveland too, and I'm always looking for new blogs to follow.

    P.S. Gotta love the C-Town to DC roadtrip. I think the best part is the beautiful country scenery when you first enter Maryland.

  18. I love this post. You have a right to be selective!

  19. You have to be true to you. Blogging shouldn't be a chore. Saying "no" is okay.

  20. Love this. So glad, for you. Just be discerning & discriminating, and... happy. Just be happy. <3

  21. agreed, blogging should never be a chore. it should be for you and what you want, i couldn't agree more.

    *and just ignore that pitch i sent you, haha.

  22. Good for you! Way to take a stand. This is about making connections, establishing relationships w/new friends, having fun and doing it because you want to! I'm impressed!

  23. I totally agree with you. I love this. its so informative for all users.

  24. Good for you!! I see quite a few bloggers change their style once they hit a certain level of popularity. They try and promote things and advertise and write "how to be as awesome and popular as me" guides. Which kind of makes me lose interest anyway. I'm so glad you're staying true to yourself!

  25. I had similar things happen, minus the events, and so I stopped writing that blog. And started a new one. I am much happier with the new blog.

  26. The Giving Tree....I love this post!


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